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In which I talk about what I got wrong about romance before I started reading it… ♢ LIPSTICK: Black Moon Cosmetics in Eternal ☆ Reading spreadsheet I use: …

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  1. Kate Dingemans

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Loved this video! I love fantasy and romance books!

  2. charity yoder

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    A lot of times with romance books I get turned off with how they get back together. Not that they do. Just the how. If the reason they decided not to be together is legitimate with consequences, if the consequences aren't resolved in an "appropriate" manner, I end up not finding it romantic. I don't even know if that makes sense.

  3. myconfusedmerriment

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I remember being at an author panel like…7 or 8 years ago and Leigh Bardugo was talking about how the same people who bag on YA do the same to romance because they conceive it as "all those mushy-headed ladies in a room together," or something like that lol. The misogyny is real! Both get treated like they are "not serious" because they're primarily written by women with an audience that's largely female. I'm so glad I gave adult romance a chance. I used to give my little sister so much shit for reading paperbacks with shirtless men on the cover, but you know what? When the world is on fire and you can't go anywhere, sometimes a paperback with a shirtless man on the cover and a guaranteed happy ending is just what the doctor ordered.

  4. Chris

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Yeah tbh I had this idea in my head of romance being the mass market paperbacks with the cheesy bodice-ripping covers that my grandma has in spades, and I think I had that whole “former tomboy working through internalized misogyny” thing going on where I would shun anything perceived as feminine as well. Also this is just a personal preference for me but I’ve found I enjoy f/f romance better than m/f romance

  5. Sue Boeker

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Great video! What is the ren fair romance? I’m interested in reading that one.

  6. Stephanie Fritz

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Honestly this video is just what I needed right now. I get a lot of flak for loving romance books and it's makes me sad because it's such a versatile genre. I truly believe there is a romance book out there for everyone.

  7. Rebecca R

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I did the same, jumped into romance for Valentines a couple years ago specifically to check my bias about "oh I'm not interested in that"… boy was I wrong. I'm pretty hooked now, and loving how much romance has really been jumping up on my fave SFF booktubers

  8. You Cant Catch Xee

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Its honestly thanks to you that i even started reading romance! I'm no expert, but I've had all these misconceptions beforehand. Since I've read Beach Read and a few historical romance books, I'm totally hooked!!!

  9. Captain Marvel MSc

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    what is an email to send an inquiry on collaboration?

  10. GrumbleBug Books

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    "Your girl's a couples therapist." ENOUGH SAID.

  11. Sassycatz

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I'm "old". I began reading romance in the 70s as a pre and young teen and subscribed to Harlequin's regular subscription service. They were pretty innocent books. Just kisses and everything explicit behind closed doors, and then "bodice rippers" burst onto the scene — with Kathleen Woodiwiss' Flame and the Flower and The Wolf and the Dove — which almost never included an actual bodice ripping. I lost touch with romance during my college and grad school years because I had to read so many textbooks and other assigned reading. And, of course, the genre was looked down upon by the so-called literati at college. During that period, I got my fix by reading Margaret Atwood, Anne Tyler, and Gail Godwin, who didn't write romance but wrote female-centric novels. Atwood is well-known for The Handmaid's Tale, but she also wrote books like The Edible Woman and Lady Oracle which have romantic elements and are excellent reads. I'd also recommend Tyler's The Accidental Tourist, which was made into a movie many years ago. I returned to romance years later when the internet became a part of our lives in the 90s. The internet allowed people to speak to each other beyond their immediate circle of friends, crossing state lines, and international borders and I found my people. I found other readers who loved the genre and gave positive feedback and validation. So, I returned to reading via Gabaldon's Outlander, Laura Kinsale, Patricia Gaffney, Sandra Brown, and Susan Elizabeth Phillips' Chicago Stars Series, for instance.
    Speaking of world building, romance is no stranger to that conception — even beyond American small towns or the London Ton. Think of Ilona Andrews, Kresley Cole, J.D. Robb, Nalini Singh's Psy-Changeling series, and my new favorite, Jessie Mihalik's science-fiction/space romance.

  12. Alison Rose

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    YES. I also used to very much "nope, not for me" because my main misconception was that romance novels were basically a tissue-thin plot tied together with a whole bunch of smut. As an ace woman, I just……am not interested in that, LOL. I don't mind a little make-out scene or whatever, but the graphic stuff repels me, TBH. But the more I saw people reviewing romance on here, the more I realized there's a wide array of sex-scene content in the genre, and also seeing people point out that you can easily skip past the graphic scenes in a book and you're not going to miss anything important. Like…no one's gonna shout out a key plot point during sex, haha. And I've been so glad to get into the genre because these days I REALLY need some books that are fun and generally light and end on a nice note, etc. Most of my books are such sad bitch books that it helps to have that respite 😛

  13. HalienNation1

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I have only recently read a few romance books that came highly recommended on Booktube, and it was nice to read something lighter and funny for a change instead of serious, heavy topics 24/7. Do you have a video on your favorite romance reads? Thanks – great video.

  14. Nicole M. Martins

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I think you might like books by Jacquelyn Middleton, check her out. Fun and less predictable, new adult, "same universe" instead of true series, and some great own voices mental health rep. Not a ton of sex, but her books are slowly becoming a bit more "open door". She's an auto-buy author for me! Her first was London Belongs to Me, so I recommend starting there. Also fun/complex side characters, which then sometimes become a main character in another book. Her 4th book releases in November.

  15. Jackie's Literary Corner

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    That's why my best friend likes them, because there's a guarantee it will end happy.

  16. Zahira A.

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    girlllll i agree with everything you said! <3

  17. Peaches

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    The colour of your shirt? Vibing

  18. Abi of Pellinor

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Romance is totally not my thing but I hate how it's vilified by so many readers! It's a genre that is just as fun and intricate and heartbreaking as any other!

  19. Julie H

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Thank you Sam. I’ve loved to sprinkle in romances for years to break up my reading and for a long time felt like I had to brush them off as bad or not good. I’ve gotten over that as I got older but It is so nice to see someone defend romance books. They are great!

  20. Bookishly Nerdy

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Thank you so much for this video! I love reading romance, but I also put myself and the books down when reviewing it in videos. Watching this gave me the confidence boost to stop doing that, so thank you.

  21. Mel Campbell

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I used to feel the same way about romance, but then I discovered Tessa Dare🙌
    I don’t like fluff, but I do love humour and she does it so well!

  22. Colleen W

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    A GREAT romance book I read during quarantine was You Deserve Each Other. It's both a second chance romance and an enemies to lovers story? Amazing. It was also both super funny and tender. I laughed I cried. Gave it 5 stars on goodreads.

  23. Ezri

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    Oddly a Historical romance was my first adult book that I read. Was in middle school when my parents let me get it.
    At the time (late 80's -early 90's) most books that were thrust at me were weird contemporary highschool stuff that I didn't like. Had known that romance was seen as trash reads at the time, but didn't realize the books I liked fell into romance until I was older. Particularly when a friend's mom threw my book in the trash after double bagging it upon finding my friend with it.
    ….was a favorite book too, so was pissed about that.
    Still read them though tend towards shifter romances, and a set that plays heavily on Greek mythology.

  24. Reading Nymph

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    This now makes me want to look into romance more. I love fantasy romance but I now want to try branch out to other types

  25. Why Not

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    THANK YOU! It's especially the misogyny point. I agree with everything you said! What is it about romance that makes it inferior to action? Action sometimes lacks substance, but it's something that men like, so it's cooler. I just hate this so much.
    Also there is this disdain for happy endings and optimism in general in books and series lately. Look at all the new Netflix shows. They're all – well, most of them – so dark and bleak. And that's considered deep and important. But take any fluffy, happy, light hearted story, and it's looked down upon. I'm sorry, but who decided that misery makes people superior?

  26. jaymelynnway

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    I love this video! I've fallen in love with romance over the past few years. I have very specific tropes and patterns I look for but essentially if the setting is a small village in the UK, I'm sold. If the main character is running a knitting shop? I'm there. A book van? Need. A bakery? Take the wheel! A grumpy but non problematic love interest? Yes, please! A village at Christmas? I read 6 a year. Adult romance is like comfort food. And comfort food is called comfort for a reason.

  27. Lindsay Nava

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    YES! Thank you for defending the romance community!!

  28. Catherine Garcia

    July 15, 2021 at 1:49 am

    👏🏼

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